|The dissociation of a personality : a biographical study in abnormal psychology - Prince, Morton, 1854-1929|
"The present volume contains parts I and II of a larger work, 'Problems in abnormal psychology,' but it is complete in itself."--Pref
Keywords: Personality disorders; Personality; Psychoanalysis; Schizoid Personality Disorder
|Orsett Psychological Review No.7 - Kevin Brewer|
Issue number 7 of semi-academic journal containing 3 articles
Keywords: non-human intelligence; gender; sexuality; personality disorder; media
|A Peer Introduction to DBT Skills [- Podcast with Rachel Gill - Rachel Gill aka Pinki Tuscaderro|
This is a brief introduction to dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) skills training from the perspective of a peer in phase 3 of DBT. The presentation may be useful to anyone who is interested learning about DBT skills training.
Keywords: dialectical behavior therapy; DBT; borderline personality disorder; BPD
|Narcissists Hard to Spot - Sam Vaknin|
Pathological narcissism is the art of deception. The narcissist projects a False Self and manages all his social interactions through this concocted fictional construct. People often find themselves involved with a narcissist (emotionally, in business, or otherwise) before they have a chance to discover his true nature. When the narcissist reveals his true colors, it is usually far too late. His victims are unable to separate from him...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; narcissist; narcissism; society; culture; civilization; diagnosis; differential diagnoses; personality disorder; dsm; confabulation; false self; deception; sign; symptoms; signals
|Narcissist's Dream: The Interpretation (Part 2 of 2) - Sam Vaknin|
He finds himself, in the middle of the road of life, in the ugly place that is his soul. The young woman is only a promise. There is another woman "old, with heavy make-up, poorly dyed hair, loud, obnoxious, drunk". This is his mental disorder. It can scarcely sustain the deception. Its make-up is heavy, its hair dyed poorly, its mood a result of intoxication. It could well be the False Self or the Superego, but I rather think it is the whole sick personality...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; narcissist; dream; interpretation; nightmare; healing; false self; personality disorder; narcissistic supply; friends; emotions; hope; fear; transformation; metamorphosis; change
|Narcissist's Dream: The Dream (Part 1 of 2) - Sam Vaknin|
"There was a woman with other people at a table about 10 feet in front of me that I found attractive, and noticed she was noticing me as well. There was also another woman with other people at a table about 30 feet to my right, old with heavy make-up and poorly dyed hair, loud, obnoxious, drunk who noticed me. She started saying negative things to me, and I tried to ignore her. She just got louder and more derogatory, with horrible rude and jabbing comments...
Keywords: narcissist; dream; interpretation; nightmare; healing; false self; personality disorder; narcissistic supply; friends; emotions; hope; fear; transformation; metamorphosis; change; narcissistic personality disorder
|Episode 2.5 The Interchange|
David Janovsky hosts the March 24 episode of the Interchange. On this show, we feature Arielle Zionts' recurring segment Discussing Differences about disability culture at the Claremont Colleges. Then, Justyna Bicz talks with two women, her mom and host mom, about how they celebrated the Easter holiday growing up. Finally, an interview with Phil Pirrone about the upcoming Desert Daze festival.
Keywords: Easter; semana santa; capirotada; disabilities; personality disorder; espanol; smigus dingus; pares y nones
|The Misanthropic Altruist and Compulsive Giver - Sam Vaknin|
The act of giving enhances the narcissist's sense of omnipotence, his fantastic grandiosity, and the contempt he holds for others. It is easy to feel superior to the supplicating recipients of one's largesse. Narcissistic altruism is about exerting control and maintaining it by fostering dependence in the beneficiaries.
Keywords: giver; altruist; altruism; charity; philanthropy; gifts; control freak; narcissist; narcissism; narcissistic personality disorder; misanthrope
|Narcissist's Beloved Paranoia - Sam Vaknin|
Being the target of relentless, ubiquitous, and unjust persecution proves to the paranoid narcissist how important and feared he is. Being hounded by the mighty and the privileged validates his pivotal role in the scheme of things. Only vital, weighty, crucial, essential principals are thus bullied and intimidated, followed and harassed, stalked and intruded upon - goes his unconscious inner dialog...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissism; personality disorder; intimacy; paranoia; paranoid; persecutory; delusions; grandeur; conspiracy; projective identification; suspicion
|Narcissist's Language as Weapon - Sam Vaknin|
With the classic narcissist, language is used cruelly and ruthlessly to ensnare one's enemies, to saw confusion and panic, to move others to emulate the narcissist ("projective identification"), to leave the listeners in doubt, in hesitation, in paralysis, to gain control, or to punish. Language is enslaved and forced to lie. The language is appropriated and expropriated. It is considered to be a weapon, an asset, a piece of lethal property, a traitorous mistress to be gang raped into submission...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissism; language; speech; lecture; semiotics; semantics; obfuscation; ambiguity; equivocal; incomprehensible; narcissistic personality disorder
|Dependent Personality Disorder and Other Personality Disorders: A Critical Introduction - Kevin Brewer|
2003 book exploring aspects of Dependent Personality Disorder (and Personality Disorders generally) from a critical stance.
Keywords: psychology; psychiatry; mental illness; personality disorders; mental health; dependent personality disorder; DSM
|Narcissists HATE Holidays - Sam Vaknin|
"I hate holidays and birthdays, including my birthday. It is because I hate it when other people are happy if I am not the cause of it. I have to be the prime mover and shaker of EVERYONE's mood. And no one will tell me HOW I should feel. I am my own master. I feel that their happiness is false, fake, forced. I feel that they are hypocrites, dissimulating joy where there is none. I feel envious, humiliated by my envy, and enraged by my humiliation...
Keywords: happiness; abuse; christmas; holidays; easter; New Year; omnipotence; narcissistic personality disorder; narcissist; grandiosity; control feak
|Tips: Can't Live without My Narcissist - Sam Vaknin|
Finally, and most important of all: KNOW YOURSELF. What are you getting from the relationship? Are you actually a masochist? A codependent perhaps? Why is this relationship attractive and interesting? Define for yourself what good and beneficial things you believe you are receiving in this relationship. Define the things that you find harmful TO YOU. Develop strategies to minimize the harm to yourself...
Keywords: narcissist; love; intimacy; relationship; tips; advice; narcissistic supply; cerebral; somatic; sex; personality disorder; behavior modification
|Narcissist's Reality Substitutes - Sam Vaknin|
To avoid the agonizing realization of his failed, defeat-strewn, biography, the narcissist resorts to reality-substitutes. The dynamics are simple: as the narcissist grows older, his Sources of Supply become scarcer, and his Grandiosity Gap yawns wider. Mortified by the prospect of facing his actuality, the narcissist withdraws ever deeper into a dreamland of concocted accomplishments, feigned omnipotence and omniscience, and brattish entitlement...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; narcissist; narcissism; personality disorder; reality; introjects; pain; hurt; narcissistic supply; false self; true self; grandiosity gap; self-deception; confabulation; symbols; avatars; shield; paranoid; persecutory delusions; paranoia
|Expert Testimony of Dr. Colin Ross, Texas v. Harris, 20 September, 2011|
Famed psychiatrist and conspiracy theorist, Colin Ross, gives expert testimony in defense of serial rapist Billy Joe Harris in Texas, September 20, 2011. Harris's defense, supported by Ross, is that Harris suffers from the controversial diagnosis of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), previously known as Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD). To augment his insanity plea, Harris convulses and yells in the courtroom, however, in a March telephone call from the Jackson County Jail, he is caught as...
Keywords: Colin Ross; Multiple Personality Disorder; Twilight Rapist; Dr. Christopher Barden; Billy Joe Harris; State of Texas v. Billy Joe Harris; Conspiracy Theory; Mind Control; Multiple Personality Disorder; Expert Testimony
|Narcissist's Addiction Atypical - Sam Vaknin|
Classical addiction - to drugs, alcohol, gambling, or to other compulsive behaviors - provides the addict with an exoskeleton: boundaries, rituals, timetables, and order in an otherwise chaotically disintegrating universe. Not so for the narcissist. Admittedly, like the addict's search for gratification, the narcissist's pursuit of narcissistic supply is frenetic and compulsive and ever-present. Yet, unlike the addict's, it is not structured, rigid, or ritualistic...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; narcissist; addict; substance abuse; addiction; shopaholism; workaholism; alcoholism; drug abuse; reckless behaviors; reckless driving; gambling; pathology; personality disorder; narcissistic supply; adrenaline junkie; narcissism; false self; self-destructiveness; self-defeating
|Passive-Aggressive (Negativisitic) Patient Therapy Notes - Sam Vaknin|
The problem is, he says, that he regards psychotherapy as a form of con-artistry: "psychotherapists are snake oil salesmen, latter-day witch doctors, only less efficient." He hates to feel cheated or deceived. Does he often feel that way? He laughs dismissively: he is too clever for run-of-the-mill crooks. He is often underestimated by them. Do other people besides crooks underestimate him? He admits to being unappreciated and underpaid at work...
Keywords: passive-aggressive negativistic personality disorder; dsm; therapy; therapist; psychotherapy; sabotage; obstruction; frustration; rage; aggression; paranoia; paranoid; ideas of reference
|Choosing a Good Psychotherapist - Sam Vaknin|
1. The therapist should be trustworthy, competent, and caring. 2. The therapist should facilitate behavioral modification in the patient by fostering hope and "stimulating emotional arousal" (as Millon puts it). In other words, the patient should be re-introduced to his repressed or stunted emotions and thereby undergo a "corrective emotional experience." 3. The therapist should help the patient develop insight about herself - a new way of looking at herself and her world and of understanding wh...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; personality disorders; therapy; therapist; treatment; empathy; symptoms; signs; psychoanalysis; psychodynamic; behaviorism; dogma; dogmatic; eclectic; psychotherapy; patient
|Issues in Narcissistic Supply - Sam Vaknin|
Why does the narcissist devalue his Source of Secondary Narcissistic Supply (SSNS)? Could negative input serve as Narcissistic Supply (NS)? Does the narcissist want to be liked? How does the narcissist treat his former Sources of Narcissistic Supply? (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.na...
Keywords: narcissistic supply; narcissism; adulation; admiration; attention; fear; emotions; obsession; compulsion; avoidance; dependence; recycling; narcissist; narcissism; narcissistic personality disorder
|Narcissist as Spoiled Brat - Sam Vaknin|
The narcissist presents to the world a facade of invincibility, equanimity, superiority, skilfulness, cool-headedness, invulnerability, and, in short: indifference. This front is penetrated in times of great crises that threaten the narcissist's ability to obtain Narcissistic Supply, or when the Narcissistic Supply is spurious (fake or low-grade), negative, or static. In extremis, when all his default behaviors and solutions fail, or when only negative, fake, low-grade, and static narcissistic s...
Keywords: narcissist; personality disorder; narcissistic supply; false self; temper tantrum; rage; schizoid; paranoid; passive-aggressive; antisocila; psychopath; sociopath; delusional; delusion
|Narcissist: You are Cardboard Cutouts, Avatars - Sam Vaknin|
Narcissists often carry on talking (rather, lecturing) long after their interlocutors - bored stiff and resentful - have physically departed or mentally switched off. They are shocked to discover that they have been conversing with thin air for awhile. They are equally astounded when they are abandoned or shunned by spouses, friends, colleagues, the media, their fans, or audiences. The root of this recurrent astonishment is the narcissist's perverse object constancy...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissism; personality disorder; bonding; attachment; object relations; introjects; imagoes; self; narcissistic supply; avatars; symbols; representations; shock; astonishment; delusions; detachment
|Negative, Fake, Low-grade Narcissistic Supply - Sam Vaknin|
Negative supply should be distinguished from low-grade or fake supply. Low-grade narcissistic supply comes from sources which cannot be idealized, no matter how hard the narcissist tries and to what extent he blocks out and denies reality. The type of narcissistic supply determines whether its source can be idealized or not. For instance: compliments on his intellectual achievements doled out to a cerebral narcissist by an intellectually-challenged person would never pass muster and would never ...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissism; false self; grandiosity; narcissistic supply; omnipotence; omniscience; criticism; disagreement; reflection; self-worth; regulation; reality test; personality disorder
|Hermit: Schizoid Personality Disorder - Sam Vaknin|
Schizoids enjoy nothing and seemingly never experience pleasure (they are anhedonic). Even their nearest and dearest often describe them as "automata", "robots", or "machines". But the schizoid is not depressed or dysphoric, merely indifferent. Schizoids are uninterested in social relationships and bored or puzzled by interpersonal interactions. They are incapable of intimacy and have a very limited range of emotions and affect...
Keywords: schizoid; narcissist; lonely; relationships; robotic; machine; sex; relationships; isolation; asocial; asexual; neuter; friends; lovers; anhedonia; pleasure; depression; personality disorder
|Narcissism Myths: Suicide, Types, Crises - Sam Vaknin|
Narcissists very rarely commit suicide. They react with suicidal ideation and reactive psychoses to severe stress -- but to commit suicide runs against the grain of narcissism. This is more of a Borderline (BPD) behavior. The differential diagnosis of NPD from BPD rests on the absence of attempted suicide and self-mutilation in NPD. In response to a life crisis (divorce, public disgrace, imprisonment, accident, bankruptcy, terminal or disfiguring illness) the narcissist is likely to adopt either...
Keywords: narcissist; suicide; somatic; cerebral; sex; intellect; narcissistic supply; life crisis; therapy; treatment; myths; debunking; narcissistic personality disorder
|Narcissist: Accountable for His Actions? - Sam Vaknin|
Narcissists should be held accountable for most of their actions because they can tell wrong from right and they can refrain from acting. They simply don't care enough about others to put to good use these twin abilities. Others are not sufficiently important to dent the narcissist's indifference or to alter his abusive conduct. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissistic personality disorder; insanity defense; right; wrong; responsibility; accountability; mea culpa; self-control; self-discipline; fear; empathy; others
|Narcissism: Multiple Personality Disorder/Dissociative Identity Disorder? - Sam Vaknin|
In Multiple Personality Disorder (Dissociative Identity Disorder, or DID), the emotions are segregated into personality-like internal constructs ("entities"). The notion of "unique separate multiple whole personalities" is primitive and untrue. DID is a continuum. The inner language breaks down into polyglot chaos. In DID, emotions cannot communicate with each other for fear of provoking overwhelming pain (and its fatal consequences)...
Keywords: multiple personality; personality disorders; dissociation; alters; host personality; false self; true self; narcissism; narcissistic personality disorder; comorbidity
|Pathologizing Rebellious Youth: Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) - Sam Vaknin|
If you are a rebellious child or teenager and you have not been diagnosed with Conduct Disorder, you are still at risk of being labelled and pathologized. The DSM informs us that "The essential feature of Oppositional Defiant Disorder is a recurrent pattern of negativistic, defiant, disobedient, and hostile behavior towards authority figures that persists for at least 6 months." Unbelievable as this Orwellian, Big Brother text is - it gets worse...
Keywords: oppositional defiant disorder. odd; conduct disorder; dsm; diagnosis; youth; children; antisocial personality disorder; psychopath; authority; rebelliousness; defiance; annoyance
|Brain Injury, Head Trauma, Personality Disorders - Sam Vaknin|
Certain medical conditions can activate the narcissistic defense mechanism. Chronic ailments are likely to lead to the emergence of narcissistic traits or a narcissistic personality style. Traumas (such as brain injuries) have been known to induce states of mind akin to full-blown personality disorders. Such "narcissism", though, is reversible and tends to be ameliorated or disappear altogether when the underlying medical problem does...
Keywords: brain injury; head trauma; personality disorders; narcissism; narcissistic; frontal lobe; biochemical; serotonin; psychopharmacology; neurology; defense mechanisms; narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)
|my soul; open sourced - 2007-08-01: wtf? about Katy; my conditions explained, lousily. - Sparkling Dreams: Katy &the Girls|
in my first 'focused' podcast i do my best to lousily explain my four major conditions. Generalized Dystonia(GD): my spastic explanation. Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia(CAH): when a rebellious body falls apart. Anorexia: how i no longer let her harm but instead strengthen me. Multiple Personality Disorder: we are all grateful that we're here for each other, i'm grateful that they were there for me.
Keywords: Conditions; Disability; Disabilities; Explanations; Generalized Dystonia; GD; Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia; CAH; Anorexia; Anorexic; Ana; Multiple Personality Disorder; MPD; Dissociative Identity Disorder; DID
|Funny or Die Video d551ff3541: Mr. Gerbils - Funny or Die|
A parable about homeless schizophrenics and not judging other people (namely homeless schizophrenics), because you just might end up a homeless schizophrenic yourself. Homeless schizophrenics: this is your video.
Keywords: Funny or Die Video Archive; End Up; Just Might; Other People; Scott Drew; beer; gerbils; homeless; lemonade; mr; multiple personality disorder; pee; schizophrenic; trailer
|Narcissists: Masculine and Feminine - Sam Vaknin|
Look around you. Self absorption. Greed. Frivolity. Social anxiety. Lack of empathy. Exploitation. Abuse. These are not marginal phenomena. These are the defining traits of the West and its denizens. The West's is a narcissistic civilization. It upholds narcissistic values and penalizes the alternative value-systems. From an early age, children are taught to avoid self-criticism, to deceive themselves regarding their capacities and achievements, to feel entitled, to exploit others...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; narcissism; civilization; culture; ambition; victory; triumph; aggression; violence; empathy; cruelty; male; masculine; female; feminine; children; home; body; sex; somatic; cerebral; false self; narcissistic supply; narcissist
|Can You Diagnose Your Narcissist? - Sam Vaknin|
The Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a disease. It is defined only by and in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM). All other "definitions" and compilations of "criteria" are irrelevant and very misleading. People go around putting together lists of traits and behaviors (usually based on their experience with one person who was never officially diagnosed as a narcissist) and deciding that these lists constitute the essence or definition of narcissism...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; narcissism; narcissist; psychopathology; npd; diagnostic criteria; dsm; diagnosis; diagnostician; therapist; psychotherapist; psychopathology; layman; expert; psychological tests; structured interviews; questionnaires; patient; psychologist; psychiatrist
|Narcissistic Grandiosity Bubbles - Sam Vaknin|
A Grandiosity Bubble is an imagined, self-aggrandising, narrative involving the narcissist and elements from his real life â people around him, places he frequents, or conversations he is having. The narcissist weaves a story incorporating these facts, inflating them in the process and endowing them with bogus internal meaning and consistency. In other words: he confabulates â but, this time, his confabulation is loosely based on reality...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissism; grandiosity; inflated ego; false self; confabulation; narrative; story; narcissistic supply; thespian; playacting; role; reality; narcissistic injury; idealization; devaluation; narcissistic personality disorder
|Discontinuous Narcissist's Multiple Personas - Sam Vaknin|
Thus, the narcissist is spatially and temporally discontinuous. His different personas are mostly in "cold storage". He does not feel that they are part of his current identity. They are "stored" or repressed, rigidly attached to four-dimensional PNS's. We say "four dimensional" because, to a narcissist, a PNS is "frozen" both in space and in time. This slicing of the narcissist's life is what stands behind the narcissist's apparent inability to predict the inevitable outcomes of his actions...
Keywords: mpd; did; dissociative; multiple personality; personality disorder; crime; punishment; justice; actions; consequences; responsibility; repentance; remorse; guilt; injury; hurt; rage; bias; bigotry; pettiness
|Firewall Obama's Narcissism: On the Path to Decompensation and Acting Out - Sam Vaknin|
From the producers: "In the first LPACTV interview with Sam Vaknin it was established what the malignant narcissist, Obama, was, and how he would react to the situation around him. Now, we follow-up on our patient, who unfortunately still occupies the White House. With a worsening breakdown crisis and no Glass-Steagall in place, this narcissist will be unable to manage himself at all. This cascade of disintegration culminates in "decompensation" and "acting out", which would assuredly ruin the n...
Keywords: obama; narcissist; narcissism; decompensation; personality disorder; white house; president; acting out; defense mechanisms; psychopathology; impeachment; compensatory; false self; narcissistic supply; criticism; disagreement; failure; defeat
|Narcissist's Vulnerability: Grandiosity Hangover - Sam Vaknin|
The balding, potbellied, narcissist still courts women aggressively. The impoverished tycoon sinks deeper into debts, trying to maintain an unsustainable and lavish lifestyle. The one-novel author or one-discovery scholar still demands professional deference and expects attention by media and superiors. The once-potent politician maintains regal airs and holds court in great pomp. The wizened actress demands special treatment and throws temper tantrums when rebuffed...
Keywords: narcissistic hangover; narcissist; narcissism; personality disorder; false self; omnipotence; omniscience; entitlement; glory; fame; celebrity; narcissistic rage; doubt; criticism; disagreement; narcissistic injury
|Narcissistic Personality Disorder in the DSM V - Sam Vaknin|
According to the June 2011 text of the DSM V, the following criteria must be met to diagnose Narcissistic Personality Disorder (in parentheses my comments): Significant impairments in personality functioning in either identity, or self-direction (should be: in both.)
Keywords: dsm v; dsm iv; narcissism; personality disorder; narcissist; false self; narcissistic supply; attention-seeking; intimacy; grandiosity; diagnostic criteria; pathology; identity; self-awareness; self-direction; self-centered
|Idealized, Devalued, Dumped - Sam Vaknin|
The quality and reliability of Narcissistic Supply are, therefore, of paramount importance. The more the narcissist convinces himself that his sources are perfect, grand, comprehensive, authoritative, omniscient, omnipotent, beautiful, powerful, rich, brilliant, and so on â the better he feels. The narcissist has to idealise his Supply Sources in order to highly value the supply that he derives from them...
Keywords: narcissist; personality disorder; false self; narcissistic supply; idealization; devaluation; over-valuation; idolizing; devalue and discard; d&d; cycle; attention; adulation; codependence; narcissism; relationships
|Kiss Kill - Jeni Mawter|
How do you man up when youâre down? When 16 year old Mat meets Elle she seems perfect. But over time Elle becomes more controlling and aggressive. Feeling like no one will believe him Mat isolates himself more and more. Their relationship fragments then explodes. The Kiss Kill story is told in fragments using multiple texts and transmedia. Prose is combined with scripts, songs, notes, poems, comics, essays, texting and photos...
Keywords: relationship abuse; narcissism; transmedia; Narcissistic Personality Disorder; psycho girlfriend; emaotional abuse; bullying; multiplatform storytelling; digital novel; young adult; teens to twentysomethings
|Psychopath? 5 Red Flags and 3 Rs Test: Remorse, Remediation, and Restoration - Sam Vaknin|
Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html 1. Psychopaths are âtoo good to be trueâ. They besiege their interlocutors with a relentless charm offensive, flaunting their accomplishments, skills, talents, brilliance, acuity, and good fortune. 2. Information asymmetry: The psychopath may flood you with unwanted and unwarranted information â and disinformation - about himself while conspicuously being inc...
Keywords: psychopath; narcissist; relationships; red flags; remorse; remediation; restoration; codependent; anxiety; alloplastic defense; false self; narcissism; psychopathy; antisocial; personality disorder; deviance; normal; fear; hostility
|Codependent's Inner Voice: "I Canât Live Without Him/Her" - Sam Vaknin|
Extreme cases of codependence (known as Dependent or Borderline Personality Disorders) require professional help. Luckily, most people with dependent traits and behaviors are clustered somewhere in the middle of the spectrum of dependence. 1. Help yourself by realizing that the world never comes to an end when relationships do: it is your dependence which reacts with desperation, not you. 2. Next, analyze your addiction: what are the stories and narratives that underlie it? Do you tend to ideali...
Keywords: codependent; dependent; personality disorder; abandonment; clinging; addiction; habit; relationship; intimate partner; spouse; mate; breakup; divorce; children; parents; manipulation; thrills; adrenaline; excitement; drama queen
|Cope with Vindictive Narcissists - Sam Vaknin|
Narcissists are often vindictive and they often stalk and harass. Basically, there are only two ways of coping with vindictive narcissists: frighten them or lure them. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
Keywords: narcissist; vindictive; stalker; grudges; harassment; intimidation; paranoid; sadist; divorce; separation; breaking-up; splitting-up; marriage; fear; narcissistic supply; narcissistic personality disorder; secrets
|Narcissist's Pain: Narcissism, Sadism, and Masochism - Sam Vaknin|
When the narcissist is angry, unhappy, disappointed, injured, or hurt - he feels unable to express his emotions sincerely and openly since to do so would be to admit his frailty, his neediness, and his weaknesses. He deplores his own humanity - his emotions, his vulnerability, his susceptibility, his gullibility, his inadequacies, and his failures. So, he makes use of other people to express his pain and his frustration, his pent up anger and his aggression...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; narcissist; psychopath; sadist; paranoid; masochist; sadism; masochism; punishment; self-worth; narcissistic supply; projective identification; narcissism; victims; abuse; torture; torment; taunting; insult; humiliation
|N-Magnet: Narcissist's Ideal Victim? - Sam Vaknin|
Many victims of narcissists are firmly convinced that they have been "chosen" by their abusers because of their capacity to empathize, their innate sensitivity, compassion, and their ability to love and care. Indeed, these qualities tend to attract exploitative psychopathic predators who leverage these human emotions to their advantage. "Classical" narcissists, however, are actually repelled by such displays of contemptible "mushy" frailties...
Keywords: narcissist; abuse; narcissism; relationship; victim; empathy; compassion; sensitivity; weakness; psychopath; contempt; personality disorder; n-magnet; profiling; narcissist-magnet; intimate partner; mate; spouse
|Misinformation: Covert vs. Classic Narcissist - Sam Vaknin|
Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Contrary to misinformation spread by "experts" online, covert narcissists are not cunning and manipulative. Classic narcissists are: they often disguise their true nature effectively, knowingly, and intentionally. They are persistent actors with great thespian skills...
Keywords: covert narcissist; inverted narcissist; classic narcissist; overt; arrogant; shy; vulnerable; assertive; manipulative; cunning; exploitive; narcissistic supply; false self; criticism; codependence; personality disorder; dependent; narcissistic; abuse; glory; fame
|Paranoia, Narcissistic Mirroring, and Narcissistic Reflection - Sam Vaknin|
Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html A narcissist's partner wrote to me these heartbreaking words: "I have made him sound like a monster, and in many ways he really is. At the same time, I have always seen a vulnerability in him, the small terrified hungry child (almost split-off from the rest of him) and I suppose this is why I tried so hard with him...
Keywords: paranoia; paranoid; persecutory delusions; grandiosity; false self; true self; narcissist; narcissism; personality disorder; intimate partner; enemies; conspiracy; narcissistic mirroring; narcissistic reflection; shared psychosis; cult
|Recluse Narcissist - Sam Vaknin|
Ever sensitive to outside opinion, the narcissist's behaviour, choices, acts, attitudes, beliefs, interests, in short: his very life is curtailed by it. The narcissist derives his Ego functions from observing his reflection in other people's eyes. Gradually, he homes in on the right mixture of texts and actions, which elicit Narcissistic Supply from his environment. Anything which might â however remotely â endanger the availability, or the quantity of this supply is censored...
Keywords: narcissist; recluse; solitary; schizoid; narcissistic supply; false self; personality disorder; criticism; disagreement; friends; mates; colleagues; co-workers; spouse; children; intimate partners; loner; social circle; society
|Narcissist: Can't Afford Emapthy (Dialog with Edwin Rutsch) - Sam Vaknin|
Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html First posted here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ng2iEw_QDuM Video Transcripts and more at: http://cultureofempathy.com/References/Experts/others/Sam-Vaknin.htm
Keywords: narcissist; narcissism; cold empathy; pain; hurt; psychological defenses; false self; grandiosity; omnipotence; omniscience; narcissistic supply; childhood; family; personality disorder; psychopath; emotions; antisocial; conditioning; behavior modification
|'Modern Dementia' - Modern Dementia|
Welcome to the free album download of Modern Dementia. TO DOWNLOAD... Click the 'VBR ZIP' on the left. Get the artwork below. Burn to CD with no pause between tracks. For more information, visit the Modern Dementia webpage.
Keywords: Outsider; Experimental; Weird; Odd; Kiddie-Glitch Nutjob; Insane; Animal Noises; Mixed Bag; Music; Audio Psychosis; Musical Personality Disorder; Schizophonic Audio Relapse; Brain Disease Music
|Narcissist: I want it ALL and NOW! (Delayed Gratification and Entitlement) - Sam Vaknin|
Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Narcissists cannot delay gratification. They are creatures of the here and now, because they feel boundlessly entitled. When forced to specialise or persist, they feel stagnation and "death". It is not a matter of choice but a structural constraint. This is the way a narcissist is built, this is his modus operandi, and his vacillating style of life and dizzying ...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissism; personality disorder; entitlement; temper tantrum; instability; delayed gratification; immediacy; childishness; relationships; unpredictability; uncertainty; self-esteem; love; ego; self-esteem; self-confidence; spoiled brat